I have been obsessed with music my entire life.
I grew up as a dancer. Both of my parents were huge music fans. I went to an arts high school. I taught dance. Almost every moment of my life has been backed by a soundtrack of some variation.
Cooking alone in my apartment? Hamilton.
Taking a shower? A playlist called Hairbrush Karaoke.
Getting ready to go out? Britney Spears and other 2010 pop divas.
Walking literally anywhere? Fall Out Boy.
With all this it’s really no shock that I have songs that remind me of certain relationships and people from my past and my present. Nobody asked for this, but please join me in a musical analysis of people from my past – from the on and mostly off again high school fling and the guy that took me on my first real date than ghosted, to the intense crush during one summer and the fake flirtationships when I was bored, and finally to meeting my wildflower.
R. On/Off thing; inspiration for all my revenge and heartbreak style pieces.
Listen. You really fucked me up for a long time, and I’ll never get to tell you that in person (thank god) but like maybe someday you’ll see this and know. You were kind of terrible to me. Throughout the entirety of our 13 months (but realistically 3 year) thing I listened to “13 Tales of Love and Revenge” by The Pierces a lot. This is a great breakup album btw. But here are the top songs that I associate with you.
Ruin. Truly your name is the first thing that comes to mind when I hear this song and that is anyone ever needs to know about us.
Go to Hell. This is a new song but again explains my current feelings towards you. I wish you all the best, but don’t contact me ever again.
There are so many more but this post isn’t about you dude.
M. The friend then first date then unexpected ghosting.
Alright, you were a great guy but we were always better as friends I think. I will also give you credit for sending me a lengthy apology and rekindling our friendship 3 years after the fact. I would like to offer an apology for later ghosting you 6 months after our friendship restarted. I don’t have any bad feelings towards you.
Fourth of July. Truly the thing I was most hurt by was that we had made plans to see fireworks and never got to. I think we had potential but I think we were two scared kids and then two very different adults. We just went off too soon.
–. The summer crush I thought got away.
We’re still casual friends so I won’t say much. I don’t even want to use a letter because I think while I had strong feelings at the time, it never would have worked and tbh I’m really glad it didn’t.
Hang with Me. You’re a cool person. I think you were interested in me and by the time I clued in the summer had ended. I think we could have been fun but it probably would have been quite toxic. I’m happy with how things actually went (or didn’t) with us.
C. The one that was there.
Okay, so looking back I realize that I didn’t really have any real romantic interest in you. And if we’re being honest, you had a girlfriend – I have no idea why you took me out for coffee and sent me drunk and flirty texts. In my defense I had no idea about the girlfriend until I insta stalked him. I stopped immediately after that.
Break Up with your Girlfriend I’m Bored. Not proud of this one, but really this is what we were to a T.
Wildflower. My Love, my buddy, my favourite. The reason why no body else worked out and honestly thank god I met you.
I’m so excited for this one!! The longer Wildflower and I date, the more songs I get to add to our soundtrack. I actually have a full playlist of songs that remind me of falling in love with you in the summer. After all the other songs, I hope these ones tell the story of a love I’ve been keeping mostly to myself.
Come Home With Me. Aside from making me obsessed with Zolita, this song tells the story of a softer love and sexual relationship than I think we’re used to. I love the line “we don’t have to tell nobody” because something that I’ve done differently in this relationship is that I haven’t felt the need to share all the little and intimate details with other people. Our relationship is great because we’re both present; not because I’m looking for validation from other people.
Can’t Help Falling in Love. This song was on a constant loop in my head when I realized I was falling in love with Wildflower. I remember the day very clearly. We had a lazy Sunday and I was walking home in the late afternoon humming this song. After a few days of listening to this song and always singing it I realized that I wasn’t so much as falling, but floating. Falling in love with her is so connected in my mind to this song – I will forever associate it with her.
Electric Love. I had actually never heard this song until Wildflower told me it was one of her favourite songs and that it reminded her of us. It’s such a positive upbeat song. I’m happy to include it here and so happy of our electric love. There are so many more I could list, but I’ll save them for another day.
As you can tell there is a huge shift from the songs I associate with revenge and casual crushes to the songs I associate with a very happy lovely person in my life. Maybe no one else cares about this musical analysis, but I had fun making it and reflecting back on my past. I have grown so much as a person in the last two years, this relationship and these songs really reflect that for me.
What songs do you associate with your ex? What songs do you associate with your partner? Let me know in the comments below!
-Red Hot